Positive Self-Talk

If you’re looking to become a more positive and happy person, then positive self talk is definitely something you should try. Whilst ‘self-talk’ might seem a little silly to you, it has worked for a number of people as a way to improve their health, self-esteem, love life, happiness and more! However, if your self-talk is negative then it can make these areas of your life quickly go downhill. So just what is self-talk and how can you use it to your advantage?

Self talk doesn’t mean talking to yourself out loud, it simply refers to the stream of thoughts that are constantly going through your head. It could mean talking to yourself outloud, but usually you do it in your head. You might not even be aware of what you tell yourself all the time,  but many people who are constantly negative in their self-talk will see negative effects in their lives and the way they see thin

How Self Talk Can Help You

When you always talk to yourself in positive terms, you will soon see this coming out in your life. It’s not ‘magic’ – it simply means giving yourself the encouragement that you need to be a success. On the other hand, if you are constantly talking to yourself about being a failure, then the chances are you may fail at things simply because you don’t have the right motivation to succeed.

This could sound depressing, but the great news is that we all have the power to change our self-talk and improve out lives.

If you want to know whether you are talking negatively to yourself, have a think about whether you use thoughts such as:

• “I messed up yet again”
• “This is fun, but it won’t last”
• “That wen’t alright, but it wasn’t great”

How to Use Positive Self Talk

Now you know how to recognise negative self-talk, you can start to think about changing it around. One problem about negative self-talk is that it often means you blame things that were completely out of your control on your own actions. No matter how irrational this sounds, people do it everyday and it creates a negative personality. Instead, when things go wrong, don’t blame them on you. Or when they go bad, tell yourself that yes it was bad for a while but that’s not how it always is. Do you notice the very small twist on thoughts that turns it into a more positive event?

Really, positive self talk means being aware of your thoughts, not blaming yourself and looking on the right side of things. Even if you don’t believe what you are forcing yourself to think , keep practicing and soon you will believe it, and you will be a more positive person.

To Hold On or To Let Go?

Heartbreak is the number one thing that can destroy motivation..losing someone you love takes away all the reasons to go on living..it may be overrated but most certainly feels that way..if you choose to believe in love then you should be prepared for the opposite: losing it..this is where we get into the nitty gritty of holding on vs letting go..when your mind tries to keep holding on to something, it keeps playing back the memories over and over..the mind is tracking back everything that has happened..so by holding on to those memories, you are stuck in a prison within your mind..there is a natural process in life that involves letting go as there cannot be an inhale without having to exhale, so life itself does not complete its expression until it lets go..however, often we resist the letting go part..how long may we hold on to the past before it becomes a deadening action on one’s own potential and future..some people let themselves deteriorate along with the ghosts of the past..change is harder to some than others, but there’s no denying it as an integral process of life..there’s really no way to keep seasons from changing spring to summer then fall to winter..we harvest the crops and then let go, only to discover new growth in the spring..like it would be foolish to try to hold onto the tomato plant..we could shield it from the cold and snow, but it would still die..our actions would be futile and a waste of time..nature knows that what grows must die and that new growth will come..how then can we approach the many circumstances in our lives when we face a time of letting go?  it is by loving that we are able to let go easily and with grace, knowing there will be new growth somewhere as a result..if dear friends announces their move hundreds of miles away, let your love of them and happiness for their great new life ease the loss of their sweet loving presence in your everyday routine..recognize with love that it is an important step in their life thus celebrate it rather than mourn their departure..loving and letting go can be applied as well to numerous other situations..perhaps the best that we can do when we face a situation or circumstance that calls us to let go is to go deeply into the love that is there..in recognizing the love present, we can find peace in letting go and an ability to see the new life that becomes possible..we can let go through loving, because love never dies even though the person is gone, the situation will surely end sometime..this is a no brainer cold truth, but why does it hurt like hell?  does it mean it’s still worth holding on to?

Never Ending Story

You would think that after a while things would get better… you just have to accept that that’s what life is like. And then it’s some huge surprise every single time I fail, even though I should be used to it by now because it’s like my life story. Its my never ending story and my life has always been like this. up-down, happy-sad, cry-laugh, love-hurt, in-love-broken-hearted.....

I wonder why people act so surprised when they find out how unhappy I really am.  It’s as though they couldn’t tell just by looking at me, or talking to me.  They really needed to see through me, which not many people do.  That’s usually because the second they do, they get scared and leave, or they give up and leave.

That's why  I like to get really dressed up sometimes and deny everything to please them or make them not to worry anymore... but sometimes its better admit to everyone, for me to know if they could really accept me for who i am...

Some people will always tell you it will get better. It’s like this,like that, blah blah blah...really shitty advice everyone feels compelled to give you when you’ve been hurt.  But that’s exactly what it is.  just an advice.  Although it might eventually be okay, but it isn’t right now.  Why is it so bad to feel bad, in a situation that isn’t good at all?

It’s hard to be strong when you are trying so hard to get through the day without dying. Is it hard to understand?

And sometimes I think, there's really no big plan for us.  Some people spend their whole lives believing that there is a reason why we are here, we just haven’t figured it out.  But I now know why. The reason we are all born, is to die.  Inevitably it is the only two things every person will have in common.  They were all born to die.  So what if I want my destiny to happen sooner than everyone else???  

I'm so sick and tired of it all.

So Tired

It seems each day I wake up I try to think positive.... but it never fails that I am reminded of how things are not as I wish they were. I am SO tired of feeling depressed. I ignore the good things, advances, and even gestures from others because I am so wrapped up in my consuming past pains.  I used to be so strong, but now I can NOT stop the tears from flowing. It's amazing how I let myself get so attached to anything or anyone in my life when I know that at anytime anyone I love could leave or just not be around anymore. I thought that telling people how you truly feel and being honest are the only TRUE way to having a HAPPY full life, but to what purpose now ......... when I know that someday.. they would eventually choose to walk away. I am trying really hard not to become angry and  bitter. But I am tired of feeling like I am always the one being hurt. I am tired of crying alone and feeling sorry for myself. 

I know I deserve all the things my heart desires -----but how & when?
When and how do I get to be really happy?

Don't be judgemental

Look for and recognize the good in yourself and in others. We are all capable of so-called "good" and "bad" behaviors and we all have our "good" and "off" days. We are all unique and it is wonderful that we are different and not all the same - in our appearance, our thoughts, our opinions, our likes and dislikes. Being different is not threatening, it is not "bad", it is just "different". Embrace the differences and be happy for the variety. And pleasssseeee, forget the concepts of "right" and "wrong". People are not good or bad or right or wrong, they just are. If you were in "their shoes" maybe you would act differently, or maybe not. Being judgmental wastes time and cuts you off from opportunities and meaningful relationships - because you are NOT perfect either, and your judgment might be WORSE than the person's you are judging!

Never judge a book by it's cover.

Remember the GOLDEN RULE: We should treat others as we want to be treated.