Whether she wants to admit it or not, every woman has a mental checklist of qualities that her ideal partner must possess. While the list will differ somewhat from woman to woman, these ten qualities are almost always found somewhere in her 'must have' list of qualities.
1. Respect.
Women want a man who has respect for himself and shows respect to others. We want to know that you value yourself and that you're going to treat us - as well as our family and friends - right. A man who can't be friendly and courteous isn't going to last long, if he even makes it through the front door.
2. Honesty.
An honest man is, generally speaking, a trustworthy man. Someone who lies is lying for a reason, so it stands to reason that someone who is open and honest has nothing to hide. Would you want to be with a woman if you knew or strongly suspected that she was lying to you? Probably not, and women feel the same way.
3. Loyalty.
Really, does this need any explanation? We don't want to share you. When you're in a relationship with a woman, it is expected that anything romance-related is reserved especially for her. Your kisses are for her, your sweet nothings are for her ears only, your romantic nights out belong to her, and so on.
4. Maturity.
A woman wants a man, not a child. There's a time and a place to joke around, and it's up to you to know when those times and where those places are. It can be as simple as setting aside the jokes at her aunt's funeral to something as easily overlooked as not teasing her in front of her children, who may not understand that you're just kidding and start to think that it's okay to make fun of Mommy.
5. Confidence.
Is it really a big surprise? Men who aren't afraid to be themselves and take control of their own life are a lot more attractive than men who just sit in their safe-zone day after day waiting for life to happen to them.
6. Compassion.
It's nice to have a shoulder to cry on at the end of a bad day, and the boyfriend is at the top of the 'preferred shoulders' list (after Mom and the best friend, of course). A woman wants a man who's understanding and comforting, who will rub her back and stroke her hair and hold her tissue box if need be. If you want to make the cut, the last thing you want to do in this area is to snap at her when she comes to you for comfort - doing so will only make her hesitant to come to you in the future.
7. Intelligence.
You don't have to be the next Einstein, but you do have to be capable of carrying on an intelligent conversation. Women want to be able to discuss real, meaningful topics with their significant other, whether it's politics or philosophy or whatever else they happen to be interested in. If all you can talk about is sports or cars or drinking, you'll find yourself talking to an empty seat.
8. The ability to provide and protect.
No big surprise here: women want to be financially secure. If something happens and she can't work, she wants to know that you can provide for her and any children you may have. Similarly, you don't need to go around beating up every guy who looks at her the wrong way, but it puts a woman's mind at ease to know that her man knows how to react in an emergency situation, be it an extreme allergic reaction, a fire, or an intruder in the house.
9. Chivalry.
Ignore the extremists; most women would love to have a man open the car door for her, take her jacket, or walk her to her door after a date. Sure, she can do it herself, but going out of your way to do something for her every now and then will make her feel great. Conversely, doing something like sitting outside in your vehicle honking your horn when you go to pick her up for a date is a good way to make sure there's no second date.
10. Hygiene.
Nobody wants to get close to someone who's greasier than fast food and smells like a compost bin.
Before you go to pick her up, shower, shave, brush, comb, and splash on a little cologne for good measure. Show her that you care about her opinion and want to look your best for her.
When it comes to women, there's no surefire way to find your way into her heart, but there are plenty of little things you can do to increase your chances, and unless you're King of the Jerks, none of them involve making drastic changes. A thank you here, a romantic dinner there, and a little more effort every day, and you can easily have a perfectly happy woman at your side.
Credit to Ms. M. Morrison
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