Loneliness While In A Relationship

It might not seem to make sense, why would someone feel lonely while they are in a relationship with someone?. Maybe because sometimes loneliness isn’t always about who you are with; sometimes it’s about how you are feeling about yourself and how you feel the world perceives you. It’s possible to be in a room crowded with people and still feel completely alone, even if the other people there are making an effort to talk to you. This is because you feel disconnected from the other people; as if it’s more like you are watching them, rather than being with them; as if you really are alone somewhere and only your body is there in that room with those other people.


It can be like this while in a relationship too sometimes. Where you wake up next to someone and don’t feel them there; as if you were far away somewhere watching them on a television screen, or maybe it’s a dream where you see this other person or things going on, but you don’t feel like you’re really a part of it, or them, or anything else. You’re just all in your mind, feeling sad or lonely, or sometimes bitter, because everyone else seems to go on as if you were feeling them.

On the other hand, some people feel lonely in a relationship because they don’t feel the person they are with is really connecting with them. Sometimes this happens when one or the other person isn’t all that great at expressing love, or intimacy. In these cases, you feel like you have to take their word for it when they say they love you, or want to be with you, because they don’t know how to show it or aren’t willing to do the things that other people do to show the people they love that they really do care.

And other times, people feel lonely while in a relationship because the relationship isn’t as fulfilling as they’d like. Maybe there is not enough spark, or romance, or maybe one or both of you is growing bored; or maybe you’re finding out that you don’t have as many things in common as you thought in the beginning, or maybe you start to feel like there should be more to life and love and being with someone, and you’re just not getting that with the person you are with.

But other times, it’s also possible to just feel lonely, for no good reason at all. It might be a mood, or a passing phase or maybe just your time of the month. Whatever it is, you likely hope it will pass, because who wants to go around feeling lonely when they are in a relationship with someone.